Amanda's parenting style consists mainly of leaving her children alone for long stretches of time with little or no contact, preferring to let them discover their own way in the world. She has a motto of "If you tried to hold a butterfly tightly in your hand, it will die. You have to let it go and if it comes back, it is truly yours. But if it wasn't, it never really was."
When she is around, she can normally be found in the basement making pottery.
Amanda is woman with long dark blonde hair and bangs sweeping over her forehead. She is seen wearing a sleeveless lavender top, pants, and shoes. She also wears lavender tear-shaped dangling earrings that match the color of her top.
In her first appearance during the events of Arts 'N Crass, only Amanda's lower body and arms are seen as she makes pottery in her basement when first Mr. O'Neill and later Angela Li try to call to talk about Jane's art contest entry, where she doesn't answer the phone, simply continuing to work on her pottery.
Amanda has only two speaking appearances, in the episodes Lane Miserables and Art Burn, often being absent from Lawndale. In fact, Vincent and Amanda's constant absence from the Lane household, a recurring theme throughout the series, is often mentioned in passing during some episodes by Jane, though she does not seem too upset by it. In one episode, Jane herself describes Amanda and Vincent's parenting as "benign neglect."
From her appearance in Lane Miserables and her housekeeping notes in The Daria Database, Amanda seems to be a very mellow and relaxed woman, maintaining a extremely laid back attitude regarding parenthood, ignoring the problems and confusion around her and being somewhat lax in enforcing rules, standards, or even basic cleanliness around her house.
She's also unsure (and unconcerned) about who's in the house at any given time, mentioning in Database that squatters might be in the basement "again" and "I'm pretty sure they're harmless"; she didn't bother to investigate and see if they were there, even though she thinks it could be some of her children.
This behavior eventually catches up with her in Lane Miserables, when the sudden concentration of the Lane family members in her house overwhelms her and she must go to Helen because "I need my house back!"
Regarding raising children, Amanda likes to quote a proverb of holding a butterfly in one's hand. (Jane is fed up with hearing it but holds her tongue.) She's willing to let her children do whatever they want in order to find themselves, to the extent that she's unconcerned when her grandchildren Adrian and Courtney run away to the Lane house without their mother.
She claims to be proud of having "such interesting and articulate children and grandchildren," though she's forced to recant her philosophy when all of her children suddenly come home at once. She also admits in Art Burn that, rather than let him choose, she and Vincent made up a story to stop Wind from changing his name to Ronald. Amanda has cited letting Trent camp in the back garden until he got bored as successful parenting; she doesn't know that Trent was waiting for someone to invite him back in and is depressed by the memory.
Amanda is seen working in her workshop with a kiln and a potter's wheel when she is at home. In the broadcast episodes, it appears that her workshop is in the basement of the Lane house (though the map of Lawndale in The Daria Diaries indicates it is in an old bomb shelter).
- The Daria Database shows that Amanda isn't bothered by the Lanes' messy household, and is lax on basic maintenance. She's also absent-minded about whether bills have been paid and tends to leave blank cheques behind for Trent and Jane to use.
- Vincent and Amanda are often in completely different parts of the world from each other. The Daria Database mentions an exception, when they toured East Europe together. Vincent once said to Wind that Amanda and himself try to work out their marriage issues by role-playing and hitting each other with foam rubber bats.
- One of MTV's websites is LaneBay: Jane started selling her family's stuff online to pay the rent and now all the Lanes want in on it. Amanda's ceramics were on sale, including a vase, a spoon rest, and a spirit vessel. The spirit vessel can't contain soup and Amanda "forgot to leave a hole to put the flowers in" on the vase. It is also revealed she doesn't cook.